While I think your input and the new information is important to keep in mind, you came off as horribly rude. Furthermore, the validity of the information only pertains to the bonus OP gave about Netherlands being dotting. The rest just may or may not be helpful since in America most women have babies in hospitals and use anesthesia, fathers are present and help their wives throughout the pregnancy. As far as I can tell half of this pairing is American, and you are completely disregarding the feelings fem!America may or may not have about giving birth according to (as you said) cultural standards. So don't try to sound like what you say should be treated as gospel.
I honestly did not mean to be rude. But as one half is also Dutch, then in writing this wouldn't this information be helpful? Hetalia is all about stereotypes and culture, and I try to always write a character using their country's culture to the best of my knowledge because that's what Himaruya also tried to do in the characters themselves. If this were filled, then America would be surprised at the way Netherlands acted right, and would try to draw him in to what she feels is normal and acceptable. In preparing, there would be a culture clash because Netherlands wouldn't realize he's expected to be so actively involved, and America wouldn't realize that what he's doing is perfectly acceptable to him. Wouldn't that not only be super cute, interesting to read, and most of all, accurately portraying how two countries would 'interact'?
Those were my intentions. I mentioned all those statistics to give numerical evidence, and to not sound like some random Dutch anon that just blabs about what her family does, and not the rest of the country. It's not just made up, it's fact. It shouldn't be treated as 'gospel'. I don't even want to sound like I'm preaching. I just wanted to be helpful, so that nobody has to do any research and they can keep it in the back of their head. As a frequent filler, I once ran into a cultural issue like that, and I just wanted to rewrite entirely. I'm hoping to spare the author of this. And to be very honest, I feel that you're much ruder than I was, and intentionally to boot. So instead of you scolding, perhaps you should try to think the best of people's intentions in commenting, and not immediately the worst.
How can I think the best when your opening sentence is to go right there and jump to 'You do realize it would be very OOC' which is a very patronizing sentence and it assumes OP should have known what you told them. Everything after that sentence just sounded as if you were telling us 'gosh people you know nothing'.
If you are going to teach something, you should be kind about it, we are not idiots and we will listen when something is being taught, but you can't assume we already know things. That said I did stated the information was valuable to whoever wrote the fill, it was your tone that I had an issue with.
But anyway, we are spamming the meme and that isn't good, so this will be my last comment on the matter.
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Re: Netherlands/fem!America - Having a Baby
(Anonymous) 2013-06-18 01:57 am (UTC)(link)Re: Netherlands/fem!America - Having a Baby
(Anonymous) 2013-06-18 09:53 am (UTC)(link)Re: Netherlands/fem!America - Having a Baby
(Anonymous) 2013-06-18 05:17 pm (UTC)(link)Those were my intentions. I mentioned all those statistics to give numerical evidence, and to not sound like some random Dutch anon that just blabs about what her family does, and not the rest of the country. It's not just made up, it's fact. It shouldn't be treated as 'gospel'. I don't even want to sound like I'm preaching. I just wanted to be helpful, so that nobody has to do any research and they can keep it in the back of their head. As a frequent filler, I once ran into a cultural issue like that, and I just wanted to rewrite entirely. I'm hoping to spare the author of this. And to be very honest, I feel that you're much ruder than I was, and intentionally to boot. So instead of you scolding, perhaps you should try to think the best of people's intentions in commenting, and not immediately the worst.
Re: Netherlands/fem!America - Having a Baby
(Anonymous) 2013-06-18 06:10 pm (UTC)(link)If you are going to teach something, you should be kind about it, we are not idiots and we will listen when something is being taught, but you can't assume we already know things. That said I did stated the information was valuable to whoever wrote the fill, it was your tone that I had an issue with.
But anyway, we are spamming the meme and that isn't good, so this will be my last comment on the matter.